Thanks & Adoption

This month is a month for being thankful for all our blessings. This month is also National Adoption Month. I'm in a unique position where I can combine both. 30 years ago today, my mother was 25 weeks pregnant with me. She was probably showing fairly well. She was probably feeling me move around and kick. As hyper as I was as a child, I imagine I was fairly active in her tummy. I was about the size of an eggplant. My mother was also facing a very difficult decision. At that point she had already decided not to abort her unplanned pregnancy. You see, my mother was only 17. She was not in a position where she could provide for a baby and raise a child. The decision she was facing was placing me for adoption. As a mother of an unplanned child, I can tell you that once you feel this life moving inside you, your love grows by leaps and bounds. It's a feeling that I can't describe, but it's wonderful. Ultimately my mother placed me for adoption. The family that adopted me loved me since before I was born. My parents had tried to have another baby after my sister was born. They weren't successful, so they decided to adopt. They gave me the live that my mother wanted me to have, but couldn't give me. I can't say that I made their job easy, but they loved me no matter what I did or said. To this day I am thankful not only to Mom and Dad, but to my Mother as well. Together the three of them shaped me into the adult and mother that I am today. They all shaped the decisions I would make and the life that I am blessed to have. I would like to share a poem that I hold near to my heart that says how I feel quite well.

Once there were two women who never knew each other.

One you do not remember, the other you call Mother.

Two different lives shaped to make you one.

One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.

The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it.

The first gave you a need for love. The second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality. The other gave you a name.

One gave you a talent. The other gave you aim.

One gave you emotions. The other calmed your fears.

One saw your first sweet smile. The other dried your tears.

One sought for you a home that she could not provide.

The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied.

And now you ask me, through your tears,

the age-old question unanswered through the years.

Heredity or environment, which are you a product of?

Neither, my darling. Neither. Just two different kinds of Love.

~Author Unknown~

This month, I am thankful for the choice of adoption. It's a truly difficult choice to make and one filled with more love than can be put into words.

Thank you Mom and Dad for choosing to give me a home and raise me.

Thank you Mom for loving me so much that you were willing to part with me for so long.

I love all three of you more than I could ever put into words. God has a special place waiting for you guys when it's time for you to ascend into Heaven.

Posted with love,

Tina De La Rosa Halley,

Daughter of Kathie and Phil De La Rosa

Daughter of Vicky Carter.

Here is a picture of my Mom's and I at my wedding.

From L to R:

Ronnie, Vicky, Me, Kathie, Ana

My birthfamily is on the left,

and my family that raised me is on the right.