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Tuesday, May 8, 2018

Teacher Appreciation


It's Teacher Appreciation Day, but in reality, it should be a whole month, not just a day.  I have many teachers that made a difference in my life for different reasons.  I had teachers that believed in me, when I didn't believe in myself.  I had teachers that found ways to pull me out of myself, when I just wanted to hide and be alone.  I had teachers that knew what I could do and wouldn't let me get away with anything less than my best.  I had teachers that were a friend when I needed one the most.  Those teachers are special people.

There are many teachers out there that are still like the men and women I just described.  They care deeply for our children and losing even one is one too many.  As much as we hate to admit it as parents, they see more of our children than we do.  They shape the lives and minds of our children.  Most parents are appreciative.  However, there are many parents that do nothing more than beat down todays educators.  In addition to those parents, there are men and women that have never set foot in a classroom beyond their own school days beating down our teachers also.  Where does it stop?  When did educating our children become a business?  You can't run a classroom like a business.  It won't work.  Every child is different.  Every child has different needs.  Teachers need to be able to meet those needs and find ways to reach each child to give them the best education possible.  They can't do that when they have to drill children over and over on a test.  Not only does it not make any sense, but it also creates an entire generation of children with test anxiety.  As adults, there are many tests in life that we take, but not like the ones in school.  How is this test going to be a part of my child's life when he's in the workforce?  It's not.  I agree, that the occasional test should be required to gauge the skills that our children are learning, but standardized testing isn't the answer.  There is no standardized way children learn.  There never will be.  The truth is, our children come in many different shapes.  Trying to fit them all into a hole made for a square means that many will get left behind.  That needs to change.  If we must have standardized testing, then teachers need to be the ones writing the test, not businessmen and women who've not been in a classroom since they attended school.  Only educators can best know what it is that our children need to learn.  Give our educators the freedom to educate our children.  There is not a test out there that should require the amount of time that we currently spend on prep.  A week of review should be sufficient.  Not CA after CA and Practice Test after Practice Test.  I want to hear from my son what he actually learned in school, not that he had to take another CA.  We have many wonderful educators out there that have the ability to reach our kids and teach them.  We are allowing them to be chased away.

Stand up for our children by standing up for their teachers.  Those men and women are on the front lines trying to educate and prepare our children for real life while at the same time trying to protect them from anything that could hurt them.  They are the first line of defense for our children.  Let's show our children's teachers that we do appreciate them.  Every day, not just one day a year.  Stand up for our educators.  We need to be asking them what we can do to help them.

What can you do to appreciate a teacher today?  What can you do to help a teacher today?

To all my teachers and my son's teachers,

THANK YOU!!!!

Monday, May 7, 2018

New Beginnings

So many things have happened since my last post.  It's been almost 5 years.  The biggest happening is that I got to start my life over.  Divorce is never easy and it's never meant to happen.  The fact is that it did and that chapter in my life is over.  I've learned many things.  I found my heart and my voice again.  After my divorce, I was blessed to be given a second chance.  He has been instrumental in finding me.  The woman I really am.  The woman I never took the time to find.  I grew up fast.  I never had the chance to figure out who I am.  I went from a child to a mother overnight.  I then became someone's wife.  How do you choose your life mate, your partner in crime, your lover when you don't know who you are.  The truth is, you can't.  The person I was when I married my ex-husband is not the same person I am today.  I can't be.  I was still growing up.  Over the last year, my husband has worked hard to pull me out of the shell I've hidden myself in.  It was safe in that shell.  I wasn't living though.  I have lived more of a life in the last year, than I lived in the last 17 years.  I have found who I am as a person.  Correction, I'm finding who I am as a person.  My husband has been instrumental in that.  He doesn't let me run away and hide.  When the going gets tough, he stands right by my side and faces it with me.  When he needs to, he holds me up and when it comes to it, stands in front of me and protects me.  For the first time, I feel safe.  Life is never going to be easy, but I have a partner to face it with me.  He is incredibly talented, smart, sweet and nothing short of amazing.  He jumped into probably the oddest family dynamic without question.  My life has been complicated from the moment I became a mom.  That's not easy for anybody to just jump into.  When we got engaged on my birthday back in February, we had decided that we were going to have a long engagement.  Our original Wedding Date was Dec. 18, 2019.  A few weeks, an ER, and a few doctors visits later, we find out I need to have surgery.  Without hesitation, he suggests we get married sooner so that I can get insurance.  By the end of March, we were married.  Not only did we have the support of my family (all of them) and friends, we had the support of his family and friends.  We've always had the support of his family.  The amount of love in my life fills my heart!  Without question, I know that this is where my life is supposed to be.  I had to take a long and winding road to get here, but so did he.  We had to travel on those paths to become the people that we are today.  My heart is happy and full! There is a love that I can not only feel, but I see it.  I see it every day.  Most people don't get a second chance to make a new life.  I have been given a second chance.  I intend to life this life to the fullest with my husband and son by my side every step of the way.